I’m a chubby girl and I like to date “chubby chasers”. Now the following opinion is coming from myself and has been learned after years of being a chubby/fat woman and also being exposed to the BBW community and industry for a number of years.
To me a “chubby chaser” isn’t an FA (Fat Admirer). They are people who aren’t part of the online BBW community but who favor a chubby/fat girl as opposed to a thinner woman. They like the big breasts, the hips, the ass, the softness, the womanly shape for a bigger girl. Fat Admirers normally are into the online community because their favoring bigger women is accompanied by a fat fetish (or a couple fat fetishes). There is that “something else” within them that needs to be stimulated and is defined as “Fat fetishism is the strong or exclusive sexual attraction to overweight or obese people. As well as traditional attraction, the topic also incorporates feederism and gaining, where sexual gratification is obtained via the process of gaining body fat. Fat fetishism also incorporates stuffing and padding, whereas the focus of arousal is on the sensations and properties of a real or simulated gain.”
**Fat Fetishes include – fat admiration, passing, inflation, stuffing, squishing, gaining, feederism, and immobility.**
A chubby chaser while having the preference of liking a bigger woman treats her like a human being. They don’t want her gain weight. They don’t want her to sit on them or squish them. They don’t need to feed her. They don’t get turned on by her eating fatty foods. They don’t need to be of a certain weight or size or shape for them to consider dating them. They just like chubby girls because they find them attractive.
These two types of men are VERY different and I really think it’s a crime how some chubby chasers of the world get treated by bigger women. I mean – in all honestly chubby chasers are who I date pretty exclusively at this point in my life. I want a man to like me because of my body. I want them to be more attracted to my body than a thinner models body. Mainly because I find sex with chubby chasers better than sex with guys with a “normal taste”. They love EVERY SINGLE part of me. They aren’t scared to touch my belly, they love my mound (chubby pussies are called mounds), I get turned on my ass and they won’t ever ask me or question me about losing weight. I love me as I am and they adore/worship the body that I have today. What woman doesn’t want that in a lover?
I literally will get infuriated seeing some chubby girls online shaming men who hit on them for treated them like a fetish when they’ve done nothing of the sort. Some of them will simply mention that they are a chubby chaser. They haven’t mentioned anything about any fetishes – in my mind they are just putting it out there they “Hey, you’re gorgeous. I love chubby women and I’m attracted to you and your body. I’m attracted to every inch of you”. In general I think they may do this so that some chubby girls could feel more comfortable with them. I’m just in their dating experience they’ve known a chubby girl or two with body image issues. Them admitting to their preference may make someone (even if it’s not you) more at ease.
To me – the only reason you would call someone out who hasn’t mentioned anything about a sexual fat fetish is because you yourself are unhappy being classified as a chubby girl. And if that’s true – is it really necessarily for you to go off on some poor guy for being attracted to you?
I can’t tell you how many chubby women I’ve heard or read complaining about there not being enough chubby chasers in the world or in their area. We complain about men who are afraid to admit that they like chubby women yet this is how some of us treat them. We jump the gun, call them out and then shame them. Drop that on top of the fact that some of their friends and family will have a hard time accepting their preference and you have a whole bunch of GREAT, NICE, AMAZING men who are hiding.
Now – I’m not saying that as bigger/fat women that we are not sometime objectified. I’m not saying that we aren’t meant to feel like a fetish by some men in the world or even comments from other women. What I am saying though is maybe take a step back, take a fucking breath and re read what someone has said to you before you jump all over them and go ape shit. Ask yourself if they are coming from a good place or not.
I am a lady that believes in class. If someone messages you and even does mention a fetish – would it not be ok to write them back politely. Tell them straight up that you aren’t interested in that, thank them for finding you attractive and taking the time to write you a message (as long as it’s a nice one and not rude) and leave it at that. After you say that even if they do write back you have no obligation to continue the conversation. You’ve done your part. You’ve been a lady – you’ve said no thank you, you’ve explained why and that’s that.
Really – I guarantee you all that all the fighting and bitching that gets done online doesn’t change anyone’s mind in the end anyways. You’re wasting your time and your energy. Sure you have an opinion – guess what we ALL have opinions. Yours are bound to be different than 80% of the other people in the world do you really need to go out of your way to cause something and be over dramatic to TRY to prove a point?
Be yourself. Be confident and content within that. Surround yourself with amazing, talented, supportive people. Don’t waste time on negativity and I guarantee your life will be better for it.